Christians: What are we Really Afraid of?

December 23, 2013

This isn’t exactly about Duck Dynasty or Phil or A&E, not exactly… but I’m losing sleep. I’m not losing sleep over rights or TV or boycotts, I am losing sleep over the fear I see. I’ve seen a similar fear before in the eyes of a leader of a well-known ministry that fights for Christian values. Nearly despairing, he described a recent conversation with his grown daughter.

“Even my daughter is walking away from the truth….she told me recently, ‘Dad, how can you be consumed with stopping gay marriage when millions of people are being traded as slaves? People are suffering and dying.’”

He adjusted his glasses and pushed away his plate and looked at me asking, “What is happening to the world?”

It hinted of anger… but it was fear. It felt like the morality and values he’d fought to protect for decades of his life were not slipping away- it felt as if they were just all of the sudden gone.

At the root of this enormous Duck Dynasty uprising, what are we so afraid of?

I think underneath the anger over reality TV and the chants of “freedom of speech” I sense a deeper fear.

A fear of losing….

our values.
our culture.
our morality.
our voice.
our control.
our institutions.
our government.

Christendom seems to be spinning in a great fear of losing.

So What?

A counselor once taught me to chase fear down with 2 words…. “so what?”

Let’s imagine I live in paralyzing fear of disappointing my father with a tattoo under my watch….

You would say, “so what if you disappoint him?”

And then somehow we would so what ourselves all the way to some very deep rooted fear of abandonment. Haha…. yep. Two words can get you all. the. way. there.

The fear that had been mastering and controlling my life, my emotions, my decisions, my relationships would be staring me in the face and then you would miserably painfully say one final…. So What?

So what if you were totally abandoned and had no one?

And with tears I would say to my fear… “My God, my Jesus will be there.” Besides just saving you a lot of money on counseling, I share all of this to chase down the fear I see today….  the one distracting me from decorating santa cookies with store bought icing.

So what?
So what if we lose it all?

Clean television with a family who prays at the end?

Friends, let’s not very publicly lose our minds and not deal with the source of our scandalous uprising.

So what…

What if we become a silenced minority?
What if we one day we actually are persecuted? (very important note: this is not that day.)

Friends, we live in a post-christian world, in a post-christian country. Except for Dallas. 🙂 It already feels like we are the minority and it has for a while. (I live in the liberal belt buckle of the bible belt: Austin.)

But this does not scare me… not even a little.  Throughout history Christianity has been healthiest when it is in the minority.

This occurred to Zac and me in great clarity in World Missions 101 at seminary but even without studying generations of God’s work on earth you can observe this to be true…. from the moment the apostles scattered preaching to their deaths to the fervor and passion of the underground church in China.

Christianity is contagious, pure and unconstrained where it is most restrained.

Where Christianity is oppressed…

Christians are united out of a desperate need for each other.

Wholly focused on the mission of God.

Not distracted by this world.

They are flat tearing it up… even if they lose everything.

The irony of the two headlines impacting my world this week…
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And then my pastor from our church is gunned down in Libya….  click on the photo and watch Ronnie’s wife, Anita and Anderson Cooper.


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God is not afraid of becoming the minority. God is not restrained by governments or even gunman.

I am not under-emphasizing the value of deep godly community and a legacy of morality. These have been privileges, gifts, blessings for many… I am not even saying don’t fight to provide or protect this with wisdom and most of all love.

I am just saying do not be afraid. Because even if your worst fears come true…

Our God, our Jesus will not leave us. He can’t be taken from us.

And it is possible….

That as we shrink in numbers- we actually grow.

And that the most powerful could come in the form of the powerless.

We have One hope. The hope of the world entered as the weakest and most powerless.
Jesus chose to save the world not through government reformation or moral correction but with unconditional undeserved relentless love.

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Dare we quit loving because we are afraid.

 Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, 29 for our “God is a consuming fire. Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Hebrews 12:28-13:1

31 Responses to “Christians: What are we Really Afraid of?”

  1. Abiogenesis

    Hell. The simple, absolute answer. All else are but distractions and guises of virtue.

    You Christians would give up your sons as sacrifices, slaughter neighbouring tribes just as Joshua did. All in the name of pleasing the genocidal Jehovah.

    Tell me, if you could, would any single one of you volunteer for eternity in Hell, so that your entire family can enjoy Heaven, leaving you out of it of course. Talk about love and virtue, do it then if you aren’t afraid.

    You are all scared to shit because of a mythological monster in Heaven.

    A Creator may exist, but it is definitely not the Creator you Christians describe and it’s not yours to claim.

  2. I find it unconscionable that you think a man (Phil Robertson) who advocates for the rape and murder of those unlike him (atheists) someone who is standing up for Christian morality. That is not Jesus’ morality, and if you were more interested in Jesus’ love and Jesus’ word than staying in the comfortable echo-chamber of fundamentalist hate, you might get a clue about where the real Christian fight is. It’s to save Christianity from people like you who have made it all about exclusion, privilege, and hate, cloaked in pretty smiles and high-production-value videos. I’ll pray for you to let God into your heart.

  3. Love you writing! keep it up. I thought that your posting of Zac’s piece on how to be a dream-releasing husband was amazing.

    I like to challenge young men on how to lead a wife who is a leader. Often they are stronger leaders than their spouses.

    To initiate conversations and planning sessions, is part of that. Not that the husband needs to have the answers, or the ideas, but if he creates those opportunities and listens well, he can harness the wisdom of his wife, and they can come to unity.


  4. WOW! Jennie, this is powerful and the meat of what is happening today. Looking at the world certainly gives fear a great chance of survival, but our hope is not this world, but Jesus. Hanging on, loving, being Christlike in this world takes us right into the arms of the One we worship and the One we call LORD. I have much to chew upon, to ponder from this. Glad I came by. I had read about your book, “Anything” on another blog where someone had listed some favorite books. So I looked you up and came by. I will be back.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

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  6. Jeaniey

    I’m STUCK!!!
    I’m planning on doing your STUCK bible study with my women’s group in January. I found the video on RightNowMedia and it looked like and awesome study. So, we all bought the study books. However, while looking through the book, I discovered that there are conversation cards. How do I get just the conversation cards since I already have everything else? Every place I find them only come in the complete set, which I don’t need now. Is there a way to just get the conversation cards?

  7. Thanks for these words and for the “So What” response to fear. I think I could use that in SO many things. I tend to run away from fear…but that never really works. Thank You! AND I can’t wait to read RESTLESS!

  8. Thank you! I will admit that I was nervous to read this. But, you spoke love and TRUTH. I have been broken over what other Christian leaders/teachers have written about this “incident”…. claiming “love is all we need”, and not even mentioning biblical truth and standing with Christ and his teachings! Things are changing, agendas are infiltrating all areas of life, persecution is rising…. but in and with Him, all glory will be given. Again, thank you for standing and speaking truth. You are truly a Godly example to be followed.


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