The Beautiful Collision of Family and Calling

December 17, 2013


Rebekah, me and Jen dreaming for IF last week.

It is almost a new year. When Zac and I drive home from visiting family after Christmas nearly every year I pull out scratch paper and I make categories, portions of  our lives and we dream. For years I was overwhelmed and lost when it came to my dreams, discouraged as I looked at the categories and wondered if it was even ok to dream?

I was overwhelmed with young kids and a lot of those years I would numbly write my to do lists for the year and the extent of any personal dreaming was hopes to work out more.

So now it’s different I’m living a whole host of dreams with an army of kids in tow- I’ve learned there are no easy answers to how to do it all. It is a dance, a deep dependence on God’s Spirit. But it is of great comfort to have many friends who dance well around me.

Rebekah Lyons  is a dear friend and was in town last week helping finalize some things for IF:Gathering. She is the author of Freefall to Fly: A Breathtaking Journey Toward a Life of Meaning. She is a mother of three and married to Gabe, and is the cofounder of Q Ideas, a nonprofit organization that helps Christian leaders winsomely engage culture.

And I interrupted Guerro’s Mexican food for ya’ll to get to join our conversation. I just knew you all needed to be a part of us processing these tensions.



Conversation with Rebekah Lyons from Jennie Allen on Vimeo.

Some of the things we discuss:

“Ambition is seen as something for ourselves but bravery is advocating for others.” -Rebekah quoting Sheryl Sandberg from Lean In. 

“What I was so anxious about in the past… all of the sudden I was just doing it.” -Rebekah

“I am at least showing my kids what it looks like to faithfully obey in a way that is not buttoned up with a pretty bow. And what they saw before was a house that was never dirty and a voice that was never heard. I would rather live in a house that is messy…” -Rebekah

“We want to raise brave kids who will sacrifice for others but we are scared to have our kids sacrifice.” -Jennie

“There is a risk to retreat.” -Rebekah

Want to start the new year dreaming? Let’s do that. Restless launches January 7th.


Restless Book Trailer from Jennie Allen on Vimeo.

Where are you being called to dream and risk?

And what is holding you back?

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20 Responses to “The Beautiful Collision of Family and Calling”

  1. I loved this. It inspired me to check out “Freefall to Fly” and devoured that book in 4 days (which is very quick with a 1 and 2 year old at home). One of the biggest encouragements I’ve received was found in that book. To know that my story, my memoir, is not finished and that there is hope after struggle and battle with anxiety/depression. Amazing. Many thanks to Rebekah for being vulnerable and brave enough to write this book.

  2. Jessica Salmon

    Thank you for sharing these thoughts. As a woman working in corporate america, it is refreshing to hear a Spiritual perspective on balance and the importance of “leaning into our Caller”, when the world is constantly promoting how to “lean into self”. We are more than our ambitions, which is what makes living them out beautiful. Thanks again, great perspective!