How to Not have a Disappointing Valentine’s

Some of you will head out to romantic dinners this weekend… but honestly, most of my life holidays contained a hint of disappointment. I guess you could say somewhere along the way I developed….. expectations. And anyone who has been alive for any time at all has learned,

nothing spoils all things more than disappointed expectations.  

So I thought in an effort to help all you men out there- who have no idea what to do to make your woman feel loved today…

Save money on the candy and please please do not buy a teddy bear…. avoid all stuffed animals. No. Just don’t.

What we really want more than any other thing- is to feel known by you.

So here is a simple little way to help you win in this area.

And I am guessing my female readership far out weighs my male readership. So girls, just go ahead and print this off…. I laid out all you need to do.

I am married to an incredible man who just doesn’t do holidays and I grew up in the land of Santa Claus and Hallmark. I have 4 of the 5 love languages (if that is even a real thing) and my husband has 1. Guess which one he has… yep… the ONE I don’t. So let’s just say we missed each other in this area all of our marriage.

Here is what I have learned,

my husband really loves me. He just doesn’t always say it in ways I hear.

Jennie and Zac

And it is not unromantic for me to help him along. If you feel like you want your man to hear you- help him hear you.

Ask him to dinner- print these cards- put them in his hand and ask him to ask you these questions and tell him it will make you feel loved.

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Sometimes we just have to ask (graciously) for what we need.

Now- there are a lot of you who do not have romantic dates planned this weekend with a significant other.

Here is what I know- every single one of us needs deep connections to people. It is the way God made us. And many of you who feel lonely right now- are so loved by many people. So I wanted you to have a tool to connect with some of those people.

Ask a friend or group of friends to dinner this week and really hear each other- dream together- talk about how you can deepen your friendships this year.

And if you are married or in a relationship- this week plan a meal with some of your unmarried friends and have intentional conversations with them.


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In fact, my date tonight? My beautiful 13 year old daughter. We need time together and so we are getting away for a little shopping and connecting. So I am printing these and we will connect eye to eye… I can’t wait.

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How do you feel loved by your spouse and friends? What are you doing fun this weekend?